Failure and Success

Have you ever seen those people who get overwhelmed by any “failure” in their life and vow never to try that one thing again? Or how about those people who have great success who then end up being arrogant and closed off to new ideas or suggestions because “they know it all?”

In this article first, I’m going to share with you how to have a proper relationship to failure and success because both can cause us to spin into patterns of behavior that may be detrimental to our mental well-being. Secondly, I will share with you how to reformulate our conceptions of failure and success so that we may not fear either of them.

We’ve all heard people say that they fear failure. They get afraid of what their friends and family might do or how they might behave. We also have met people who are actually afraid of success so they don’t take opportunities that come at them. We only have these habits because our relationship to them is not correct. For instance, we fear success because of what it might do to us. We know that true and real success will change our lives and relationships. Human don’t like change, whether good or bad. They like what they know. So when we start to experience success we worry, “What will other people think of me? Will my old family and friends still appreciate me the same way?”

One issue I’ve had my whole life surrounding this has been to lower my expectations of myself so other people don’t feel threatened by me. For many of us this is the unconscious reason why we are not having the success that we like or know we can enjoy. We’re afraid that if we come full force and show up as our soul that others will perceive us as arrogant. Or we’ll threaten others fragile ego’s and make them jealous whether it be friends, families, or co-workers. Whatever the case may be it’s crucial for us to learn how to learn to let go of how other people perceive us. If your friends, family, and co-workers starts treating you differently because you’re having success and they aren’t then let them be that way. Don’t hold your own desires and wants back just to make others comfortable. You’re doing the biggest disservice to yourself and the world when you hold any part of your being back just to save others from having to face their inadequacies. I did this for years until one day I finally made the decision that I wasn’t going to let people opinion or perception of me affect me going after it is what I truly want.

Make a commitment to yourself and tell yourself, “I’m not going to hold back just so others can continue to play it safe and be happy.” If you play it “safe” like that you won’t change too much in this world. You won’t inspire others either. What it means to be a leader is “to lead others”. You can only lead others by questioning the status quo by which a majority of people go by. Success is directly linked to how much you can inspire others. And you only inspire others when you question the status quo that people feel chained and locked in by.

Now, when it comes to failure there is a similar issue. Many of us have a faulty relationship to failure. For instance, we tell ourselves, “If I fail at something then that means I have no self-worth, I’m no good, and a bunch of other I, me, myself woahs. Forget about yourself. Forget about the Me and the I. Don’t make what you do in this life about yourself. Don’t make your marriage, don’t make your relationships, and especially don’t make your work about ME. Forget the me. Just simply do for the sake of doing to the best of your ability and don’t attach your self-esteem or self-worth to any of it. Just focus on the doing not on how you will be perceived or judged or how failure will affect your self esteem. When you focus on the doing for doings sake then you will be able to achieve anything that you could ever want in this life because there is no ME to hold you back. I’ll give you an example to make this more clear.

Many people have an issue with public speaking. It terrifies them. When you ask people about public speaking they say, “I’m terrified.” However, the best public speakers won’t even think about the me. They will constantly think about them, the audience. When you place your focus on everyone else you forget about yourself. Most bad public speakers are bad because they are focused on how THEY are coming off. Or how THEY appear to others. Or how THEY could make a mistake.

Re-shift your focus to the audience, customers, or the people that you are working with and all fear will disappear. The “you” is lost up in the doing. Focus on connecting with that other person so much that “you” disappears. You will perform brilliantly when you focus on connecting with the people. Not with how you are coming off.

So failure is really just about letting go of the “You” and re-shifting your focus on who you are serving and working with. Focus so much on what you’re doing and who you’re serving that the question of failure doesn’t even come up in your mind.

Deepest Blessings and Pranams!

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