Empaths Why You Should Thank The Narcissist

Feel like someone is running your life for you? Do you have a relationship in your life that you don't know how to let go of or break away from even though you know it's toxic?

In this article I’m going to share with you how why the empath and narcissist attract one another, describe the dynamic in detail, and then finally, why you should thank them.

Firstly, it’s important to know that everyone has the ability to be empathic, unless you’re a sociopath. Recently, brain studies show that sociopaths cannot even imagine what it feels like to be another person in a situation. But we’re not going to focus on them now. Instead we will focus on how you can maintain your own energies, so you can never be taken advantage of a narcissist.

Because empaths are so open, light, and loving and carry a higher frequency they shine like lightbulbs in the spiritual world. And naturally where there is more light darkness will seek to overtake it, it’s just a natural law of the universe under the Ying/Yang principle.

So why does this dynamic exist and what is the purpose of it?

Firstly, it’s important to know that this dynamic primarily exists because from the spiritual perspective both are trying to learn something. That’s the best attitude to take in life because when we encounter lessons to learn that are pleasant then we can tell our minds at least, “Hey I’m learning something here.” However, if we continue to repeat the same lesson over and over again and know what we are doing then we should step back and become definitive within ourselves to start living in a different way.

This dynamic exists for the empath, so they can learn to love themselves. Many empaths have grown up in homes where they were either traumatized or abused. They were never given anything and had to always fend for themselves. They grew up expecting not to receive nurturance, help, or assistance.

In fact, they may have had narcissist parents who were so consumed with themselves that they procreated because they themselves were empty. I see this all the time. People are depressed or sad, so they have a baby to make them feel fulfilled or happy. Or one person is about to leave the relationship so the woman gets pregnant on purpose so the man stays around.

Please see that whenever you procreate the intent you lay down will be passed down to the child. If you only have a child for one of the reasons above then that child will be imprinted with your burden.

He or she will not feel like they have a purpose within the family. This is karma. If a woman uses a child as a means to keep a man, then she essentially created that child as an emotional object of control. That child will grow up and repeat the same patterns of being used as an emotional object. This is what happens with many empaths.

Many Empaths grew up in homes where they weren’t shown enough affection or love. It’s a basic human need. When you are not shown this something has to fill that empty space.

Please see that if you have a basic need that isn’t meant it doesn’t mean that you just “get over it” or it’s not a big deal. “It just goes away.” No, you will actually develop a personality or complex around that trauma.

You have to in order to safeguard yourself from that pain until you meet someone in your life who can help you work through that pain. Empaths attract narcissists because they still have yet to complete the karmic imprints passed down to them from their narcissist parents, or parent.

Let’s say you grew up in a home and your parent was a narcissist. They didn’t have you because they wanted to experience the joy of having a child and looking after it but rather they had you because they felt something was missing or empty within their life. Let’s say they wanted to use you to bring more attention to themselves. So they have you and dress you up in all these clothes. They love the fact that they get compliments about how cute their creation is.

Anytime you step out of their image or view of you they get mad and discipline you. They don’t let you be yourself but rather they force you to become the image that they want you to be.

As a child you learn, “OK in order to get my basic human needs met, love and affection I have to be this particular way.” That particular way isn’t you it’s what your parents want for you because it is what they want for themselves. Unfortunately, this is happening in a majority of families around the world. What does this have to do with the Empath and the Narcissist.

The Empath is that person who developed an extreme sensitivity to other people’s wants and desires. They learned this through being around narcissistic parents. They subconsciously think that if they be a certain type of person think and act a certain way then they will get the love and affection that they deserve.

Where does the narcissist come into play? The narcissist is there to show them that it is an illusion and a lie. You will never get the love and affection that you desire by not being your true self. The narcissist comes into our life and causes us so much pain, heartache, and betrayal to teach us not to betray ourselves. This can be confusing because we never learned any other way of being.

But the narcissist is there to show us to stop hurting ourselves. The narcissist will never give you the love, affection, and care that you deserve because he or she doesn’t have that capability. And they will take and take from you until you give so much, and you are put into so much pain that you realize, “Wait, this is only going to be a loss for me. I need to learn to love and accept and be with myself. I need to show myself true love and affection and worth. I don’t need to get it from anyone else I just need to give it to myself.” Ironically, when you start giving it to yourself then you actually heal and give it to other people in the world.

Have you ever seen people who are just themselves without a care in the world? It’s attractive, endearing, and warm. And they act that way with you. People treat others the way they treat themselves. So the next time you see an old narcissist friend thank them but then keep walking.

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