Energetic Enmeshment

In this article I'am going to describe what energetic enmeshment is, how it affects you and other people and your environment, and give you some tips on how you can get rid of energy cords and ties that are no longer serving your being.

You might have heard me say that you are your energetic connections in the past. And this concept still holds true and is important to understand if you want to understand energetic enmeshment. Energetic enmeshment is how we can get tangled in life. It's those knots or literally ties to people and/or organizations that come in the form of relationships. In order to first understand energetic enmeshment we first have to redefine our concept of relationship.

Firstly, relationship is nearly everything. We our in constant relationship with everything from above to below. Your lungs are relationships with the trees.

You breathe the stuff they put out. Your body is in relationship with the sun. Your feet with the ground. Essentially, you are not an indiviual. You just have a mind that believes or thinks it is separate from the environment. You imagine yourself to be a being walking within an environment rather than a being who is in constant relation and fluctuation with the environment. There is a direct relationship and connection. Your body is always relating to the world in some way, though your mind may think it isn't.

On the physical level we might not be able to see these relationships as distinctly however on the energetic level you can see them very clearly. Everything is energy from this perspective. Whatever you are doing you are relating to it in some way. And every action takes energy. When you take a certain action, whether it be speaking, fighting, eating or anything else there is an exchange of energies. And that exchange of energies takes place within a tube or connection. You literally are weaving threads wherever you go. The more intense and the more life energies you use the stronger that connection becomes because it is powered by some sort of emotion. And emotions have different levels of intensity or vibration.

Energetic enmeshment happens when we use our energies in unconscious ways. Cords are formed in an unconscious manner and then when one being becomes conscious of the relationship and realizes that the connection is no longer desired or healthy for itself it seeks to cut the connection.

Naturally, the other being doesn't want to lose the connection because it is feeding them in some way. This happens all the time in relationships. Someone outgrows a person, they may still deeply love that person but realize that the other being is no longer neccessary for their evolution and in fact now they hinder it. At one point the connection was necessary and the relationship mutual. Both beings were growing side by side in the connection but now one is evolving at a faster rate and feels held back. Maybe he feels like he is being sucked dry. In some sense, when one being steps up on the ladder of being and evolves then the other being naturally drains the energy. Many times though this is happening unconsciously. There are many parents who feed off their own children. Children come into this world unbiased and prejudiced at one level and others who have low and depleted energies are naturally attracted to them. Many people love holding and looking at babies for this very reason. They're literally fresh energy. So how does energetic enmeshment occur?

Energetic enmeshment occurs when one person wants to move onto a higher more evolutionary connection and the other one naturally wants to hold onto that person.

This can happen in any type of relationship, husband to wife, mother to daughter, father to son or vice versa. For the person trying to leave they may feel pulled in to directions. On one level they start to become consciously aware that this connection is no longer necessary or needed however the emotions of the past and the memory act as powerful devices to keep him in this stuck position. In fact, the other person will point to the past as a means to keep hold of the connection. That is the problem though. The past is the past and it can never be recreated or returned too. Many people, and I

myself am guilty of this, may try to return to the old relationship because the tearing of the connection is very painful. On top of that the other person is coaxing you to look into the past. Look into everything that they shared together. But they're just trying to pull you back into the same old energy. Essentially, nothing will change. It is the same energy. They may have changed as people but the relationship and the energetic connection hasn't. Some people stay locked in this relationship for years and feel torn within their being. On one hand they know they need to move on but on another they feel like they cannot. The past memory is too strong and so are the pleas of the other person. What to do? Extreme measures may be necessary at this point. One, you have to state to yourself and the other person, or organization, essentially whoever and whatever you are in relationship with, your intentions. This may be hard but you need to make a decision. You either need to dive in head first and make it clear that you are moving on and that the other person needs to do so too no matter how painful. You simply just cut ties. You can drag it out and wean each other off one another but you can also just cut ties. Whichever way you choose is up to you. But a conscious statement of intent in the physical needs to be voiced and communicated. Secondly, on the energetic level a cut needs to be made. This can be done symbolically with a knife or a sword but it also needs to be done emotionally. Bring that person or organization up within your mind and say that you no longer desire this connection. You must feel this emotion earnestly. Cut the cord and release the energy. If necessary, get out a notebook with a pen and write what you want and need.

Write to that other person or organization the new basis of your relationship or the lack of one and then close the book and burn the pages. You may need to do this a couple of times. But know that this is one step in helping you to move on.

Energetic enmeshment happens because we all have needs. And people and organizations meet our needs in some ways. When they can no longer fulfill our needs or come up short it is only natural to sever the relationship.

It is no longer necessary. It also happens because we make this connection unconsciously. That is we have a need that we are unaware of that isn't being met and we stumble around in the dark reaching out for anything that can stabilize us. Whenever you form a new connection or relationship with an organization or person do so on a conscious level. Tell them what your needs are, your expectations, and conditions of release. When you state all these things consciously when the time comes for separation as it inevitably will the process will be much smoother because the foundation has already been laid down.

Energetic enmeshment is something that can be avoided when you make your connections and relationships consciously. Anytime you bring the light of awareness and consciousness into your life life will be smoother.

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